From being stuck to joy

I teach people to be joyfully engaged in life. I see this as our natural state of being. This is what we are, what we do when we are healthy and things go well. When things are not going so well for a while or we recently passed through an overwhelming experience, we start to feel stressed, depressed, anxious — we may lose appetite, not feel like trying out new things, or compromise. We may accept things that are just okay, but not really good for us. In the end we just don´t know, why we don´t enjoy life like we did before. We all use different names for not being well and all these states of being are experienced differently by each one of us. But they make us all feel disconnected from our bodies and our surroundings. We feel like lonely fighters with no good options.

We may as well experience anxious thoughts and physical symptoms like forms of insomnia, irritability, muscle tension, headaches, inability to relax, trembling, twitching, feeling out of breath, and various stomach and digestive problems.

My work is about connection.

The path from the lonely fighter to the joyful, engaged person is a path made of attention.

It may seem counterintuitive – but you learn to connect with stress instead of trying to get rid of it.
How does stress feel in your chest? How does it affect your breathing? How does it impact the way you think?
You learn to connect with your surroundings.

How does the chair underneath your bottom feel right now? In which situations does your body relax a bit and you feel safer? How does this affect your experience of stress or anxiety?

These feelings become something tangible, they move from being a threat to being a part of yourself. They change, they can be influenced. Your attention moves from being trapped in the experience to being silent enough to notice which move is the next one, what will bring you closer to well-being in this very moment. This is when you start to answer the difficult e-mails first, dare to talk to your partner about the hard issues, book the dancing class that you wanted to attend for years. Or well-being may mean to simply sit in your armchair and read a book without having the sensation that you should be doing something else.